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Holiday Thrive Guide

Holiday Thrive Guide

 

Tips for thriving (not just surviving) during the Holiday Season

 

BODY

 

  • Stick to your diet, exercise, and stress reduction routine as much as possible ~ try not to get derailed by celebrations and events. Give yourself permission to enjoy a treat, but then make a YOU-turn, and get right back on track with your healthy diet and lifestyle choices.
  • Drink a full glass of water upon waking ~ start your day by hydrating your body with pure water to help replenish bodily fluids and flush out toxins.

  • Eat a power breakfast ~ start your day with a nutritious breakfast. Try a vegetable omelet or a green smoothie with protein powder, as the protein will help keep you satiated and curb cravings.

  • Prepare before attending parties ~ be sure to eat a healthy snack before leaving for the party or event. And always offer to bring something to ensure that you will have at least one healthy option to eat.

  • Alternate alcohol and water ~ after every glass of alcohol you consume, drink one glass of water. This will help to keep you hydrated, as well as fill you up and keep you sober. Alcohol lowers your inhibition, which will likely lead to over consuming unhealthy treats.


MIND

  • Give yourself a time out ~ if you are feeling overwhelmed, overworked, or just plain crabby, find a quiet place to rest and regroup.   Take a few deep breaths, focus on being present, and regain your inner calm.

  • Give up the need for perfection ~ give yourself a break, and remember the true intention of the holidays. Your friends and family want to spend time with YOU; they are not focused on how clean your house is or how perfect your food tastes.

 

SPIRIT

 

  • Enjoy the beauty of each moment ~ relax, enjoy, and treasure the time you spend with your family and friends over the holiday season. Be open to creating new memories that will last a lifetime.

 


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The True Role of a Parent

As parents, we often focus our attention on teaching our children life lessons and setting standards for them to meet or exceed.  This includes expectations for superb grades in school.  Don’t get me wrong, teaching and goal setting are important parts of parenting, but they should be balanced by an emphasis on positive reinforcement, upliftment, and empowerment.

The greatest gift that we can give to our children (and truly to everyone in our lives) is the gift of unconditional love and empowerment.  As parents, we can give them the confidence and the wings they need to rise up to meet their own goals and expectations.  We need to allow them to be who they are, and not expect them to be who we want them to be (which is typically either a mini version of ourselves or someone better than who we think we are).  We should triumph their natural talents and celebrate their successes, no matter how big or small they may seem, as children need encouragement more than discipline.

When if comes to discipline, it’s human nature to be harder on ourselves than anyone else would ever be on us.  It’s important to defuse that negative inner voice of self-criticism (or “stinking thinking”) at an early age.  As parents, we can teach our children through example, and model the behavior we’d like them to emulate.  This means giving up the need to be perfect in everything we do, and accepting ourselves “as is”, blemishes and all.  Self-love is at the root of unconditional love, and it takes unconditional love to truly accept others for their own unique selves. 

As a former Psychology major, I entered into parenting with the belief that it was nurture rather than nature that determined the characteristics my children would carry through life.  It wasn’t long before I realized that I was at least half wrong!  My oldest daughter is a carbon copy of my husband, who had much less interaction with her than I did when she was younger (as he was at work most of her waking hours).  I tried tirelessly to make her more like me, with little to no success.  It wasn’t until I gave up on the notion of changing her that I truly came to see the beauty in all that made her different than me.  I then began to triumph her strengths.  Rather than working to defuse her incessant need to argue, I began to compliment her on her amazing debate skills and encourage her to sharpen them, as they will serve her well in life.

That simple shift in MY attitude created a shift in her sense of personal power.  She has grown into an amazing young lady with the confidence to speak her truth without fear of judgment.  She has set higher goals for herself than I could ever set for her.  I often find myself in awe of her inner strength and personal power! 

Sometimes we need to let go of our vision for our children, and allow them to create their own, as it may very well be grander than anything we could imagine.  But most importantly, it will be theirs to reach for and achieve, and our role is simply to stand on the sidelines, cheer them on, and help them celebrate!